Man, this blogging stuff is harder than I thought. Not the writing, but deciding what to write and what not to write. Anyone who knows me reasonably well knows I have no problem speaking my mind, damn the consequences. But that's not entirely true. As "predictable" and easy-to-figure-out as I may seem, there is more to me than meets the eye.
I often bite my tongue and keep my mouth shut, for two primary reasons: 1) to not piss of someone I am close to or respect, and 2) to avoid hurting someone's feelings. When keeping a 'blog', at least a remotely interesting one, you have to open yourself up and write what's on your mind. But what's on my mind sometimes fits the criteria of the situations I mentioned above. So what do I do? Do I just write what I feel obligated to write, or do I say "fuck everyone" and go with it, not concerning myself with the potential repercussions? Maybe I should start another 'blog' and not give the url to anyone... I guess that's what a diary is for.
Well, it's nearly impossible for me to completely keep quiet and this is really eating away at me, so I'll just throw out a very brief, sanitized version of what's on my mind, keeping it as scant of details and opinions as possible to reduce any possible shit I will get:
throwing a 'black tie' (non-optional) affair is considerably selfish. Yeah, I know, it's "classy" and everyone looks so sophisticated, but if you want to throw one, pick up the costs for all the tuxedo rentals.
That's it, no offense to ANYONE, I still love ALL OF YOU. Just something I had to get off my chest.
Piece of work you are... :o)
Purchase a tux and you will always have it.
Posted by: The "ex" | June 30, 2005 at 12:32 PM
What, I'm way off-base for feeling that requiring people to spend $85 for a tux, in addition to what's spent for an engagement gift (which I flat out refuse to buy; where did this come from? Next thing you know we'll be obligated to buy 'moved in together' gifts and 'going steady gifts'.), a bridal shower gift, a wedding gift, a plane flight and hotel room for out-of-towners, etc. It's not the money to me, it's the principal. But for some people it is the money. What about a single mother with two sons? My sister has to spend $175 to rent tuxes for my nephews.
And why, because some girl idolizes "Gone with the Wind" and wants a storybook wedding where everyone has to wear tuxedos so the whole soiree looks high society? What's next, requiring everyone to go out and rent multi-karat jewelry to bling out their tuxedos and gowns???
Posted by: Creepy | June 30, 2005 at 01:55 PM
What I am saying is this and it may not make sense to you but if you are asked to be in a wedding, especially being that you were asked to be the best man, you should feel honored. Imagine how you would feel if Bruce asked someone else. Weddings are expensive, no doubt. If you buy an engagement gift, then no wedding gift. Cindy is a different story and her situation should be taken in consideration. If Bruce and Becca looked at everyones situatuon and said well this wont work for them, then it no longer becomes their day. It becomes everyone elses day. $85.00 for a tux and a day to be classy is a small price to pay. Alot smaller than the feeling you would be left with had you not been asked to be in the wedding.
PS... that some girl makes your cousin happy, so just go along with it. There is nothing wrong with feeling a certain way without always expressing it when it does not completely concern you.
Posted by: The "ex" | June 30, 2005 at 02:52 PM
First of all, I wasn't talking about anyone in particular, just black tie weddings in general.
Secondly, I wasn't talking about me, I was talking about all guests. If someone is in the party, sure, they're wearing a tux regardless of whether it's black tie or not.
Thirdly, speaking out and "expressing" myself is obviously one of my more well known characteristics. No suprise to anyone who might read this. But if that's one of my bigger flaws, than I'd say I'm not too bad a guy.
I am honored to be the my cousin Bruce's best man, it's something I will cherish for the rest of my life. But I just think black tie weddings are selfish. That's my opinion, and "opinions are like assholes: everyone's got one and they all stink."
Posted by: Creepy | June 30, 2005 at 03:32 PM
You are entitled to your opinion and no your expressions are not a flaw.
I was just expressing myself. Maybe I shouldnt let loose on this blog, I am the 'ex' so i am sure that holding that title tarnishes my comments anyway
Posted by: The "ex" | June 30, 2005 at 03:40 PM
And you are more than welcome to express yourself.
No, I doubt that title "tarnishes your comments." No one has demonized you that I know of. Shit, they probably think you're a saint for putting up with me for 4 months...
Posted by: Creepy | June 30, 2005 at 04:21 PM
No, I do have to pour my heart out here, that's who I am and I finally have a medium with which to do it.
Posted by: Creepy | July 01, 2005 at 10:29 AM